Tips for Pain-Free Anal Play

1. Find a Great Lube: Thick and viscous lubricants work best and tend to stick to the
condom. Silicone lubes are great because they don’t get sticky and are super
slippery. A combination of lubricants is fine. Experiment and find what works best for
2. Anal Grooming: Hairs around the anal area are common (in both men and women). If there is a lot of hair
around the butthole, it can interfere with how easily a penis can glide in and out. Who
would have known? Be careful about how you do this. You don’t want to cut yourself.
3. Get a New Condom: Believe it or not, not all condoms are created equal. Some are
thicker than others. Play around until you find one that is right for you.
4. Position: Position is everything. Check out the blog post Best positions for anal sex.
Remember – the right position is the one that makes you feel most relaxed and comfortable.
5. Gently caress the anus: Tap lightly or massage the anal area in preparation. Make
little circles around the anus and wait for the sphincter to relax.
6. Go slow: Take your time. Stop for a moment and let your body adjust to the
sensation. Stop to add extra lube when you need to.
7. Take a breather: Even if you’re reeling from the pleasure, don’t hold your breath. It’s a common practice for folks to take shallow breaths—or forget to breathe
completely—during sex, but deep breathing is essential to enjoying sex, especially of
the anal persuasion. Breathing deeply draws much-needed oxygen through your
body, which helps to relax your muscles even further.
8. Add to your pleasure: Try adding other kinds of stimulation at the same time. This can sometimes take your mind off of the insertion and help you to relax. Small
vibrators make it easy to send a good buzz to clit, nipples, penis, testicles or perineum while you’re working on the butt.
There are many things to do that help someone receive anal sex without pain. There are also things that the guy can (and should) do. For example, the penetrator should not try to thrust his way inside you. Once he initially gets the head in, the tendency for a lot of guys is to start the thrust, retract, thrust, and retract motion. This is incredibly frustrating. Once you get the head in, keep the motion forward. Don’t pull back. Keep moving forward until the person receiving tells you to stop. Once they get used to it – then you can start the pullback and the thrusting.
We’ve talked about many tips for receiving anal sex – but what can you do if your partner is REALLY BIG? The solution – get a starter penis. Buy a small little toy that will help open you up in advance. This is actually a great technique regardless of how big/small a man’s penis is.
If you are pre-opened you are less likely to experience as much pain as if you are trying to receive a penis with no warm-up.

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