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The 3 Keys to Better Anal Sex

Basic Anal Sex Guidelines
The three keywords for comfortable anal penetration are lubrication, communication, and relaxation.
LUBRICATION:  Always use a lubricant prior to and during anal sex. Spit is never a substitute for lubrication. Unlike the vagina, the small amount of mucus a rectum produces is completely insufficient for anal intercourse.
Therefore anal penetration should always be accompanied by an ample supply of lubricant. Water-based lubricants or silicone lubricants that are latex-compatible are highly recommended. This will make for a much more pleasurable experience no matter if the receiver is a man or a woman.
COMMUNICATION: Always communicate with your partner. As with any sexual activity, communication is essential. Talk about what you want to do, discuss beforehand your desires, tell your partner what you like and don’t like while engaging in anal intercourse. Basically, be open about your preferences and feelings, and, be receptive to theirs. Communicating with your partner about the sensation will let them know when to continue when to “wait a moment,” etc. Allowing your partner to be on the receiving “end” at their own pace will increase pleasure and reduce any kind of tension and pain as opposed to the “giver” inserting their penis/toy without any feedback from the receiver. Stop immediately if your partner asks
you to stop. If your partner is too tense to experiment, all forms of anal penetration will cause a great deal of pain. We are not saying to stop trying completely, just don’t push yourself onto your partner, as this will only result in a bad experience for them, and make them less willing to try again.
RELAXATION: Relaxing the sphincter muscles (the ring of muscles around the anus) before and during penetration, will allow the penetrator to slide in more easily without pinching the delicate anal tissue of the receiver. Breathing really helps in relaxing the anus and focusing on the sensation as if you’re pushing out, relaxes the sphincter muscles, too. No thrusting until 2-3 minutes in when the sphincters are relaxed. Taking it slow helps as well. When experimenting with anal sex for the first few times, go slow. There is no rush and if you take your time you will probably both enjoy the experience. There should not be a great deal of force required. If lubricated properly, an object should slide in somewhat easily. We recommend using your fingers ahead of time to loosen them up first, the first few times.
Make sure you’re turned on. Read your favorite erotica or watch some adult videos. Listen to your partner talk dirty, but get yourself in the mood. Some people like to have an orgasm before heading for the back door to ensure their whole body is relaxed and blood is really pumping through the genitals, which can make the anus more sensitive.
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